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trying to break the cycle . . .

By Lesle | August 19, 2008

My mother upset me the other day.

I was complaining to her about Walmart. When I went shopping for the kids I couldn’t find any jeans for Emy. They were all hipsters, slim, flared. You know, the stuff you expect to see on teenagers, on MTV or something with a belly button ring and short shirt.

Well, ummm, Emy is 5.

She needs at least a couple pair of jeans, so I grabbed a size 6 for her to try on. She sat there, and wiggled, and struggled, and for the life of her was not able to pull those jeans up over her thighs. I was p!ssed. I walked away from the jeans and found a couple of uniform skorts for her to try on. I grabbed a size 7 because I though, heck, she couldn’t get into size 6 jeans . . . the skorts totally fell off of her they were so big.

That really made me mad.

Why in the world are they cutting jeans so freaking small? What a great way to start those little girls on the path of worrying about their weight.

And when I was telling my mom about this, she adds insult to injury by saying, “Well, I have noticed she’s getting a bit of a belly.  Maybe when she get in school and is more active . . .”

WTF?! Emy is not fat. She may be bigger than some other kids, but she’s also taller than them.

Do NOT start treating Emy the way you treated me when I was kid . . . like I was fat because I wasn’t as skinny as other kids or my sisters. I was not fat, but always felt like I was because that’s how I was treated.  I look back at pictures and I SO was not fat, it’s ridiculous.

Do NOT start talking to me or Emy about her weight. She has plenty of time to worry about that when she grows up . . . she is NOT going to start obsessing about it at the age of 5.

I will break the low-self esteem cycle with my daughter! I sure as hell am gonna try anyway!

L

Topics: Body Image, Emy, This and That |

One Response to “trying to break the cycle . . .”

  1. Mona Says:
    August 19th, 2008 at 8:57 pm

    Emy is not fat - she is a healthy, normal 5 year old! There is way too much pressure put on girls to look “perfect” from the outside world, they need home to be a place of unconditional love. Good for you, Lesle!!!

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